Bullying is a top concern for our nation’s schools and is a leading cause for large-scale school violence such as active shooters. At AEGIS Security & Investigations, we develop active shooter training for school and education settings that focus on looking for key signs in individuals to prevent such situations. One of these key signs is being the victim of school bullying. Anti-Bullying training courses and bullying prevention programs are becoming more and more prevalent both in person and online.
Bullying is comprised of actions that are meant to harm the victim physically and/or emotionally. This can include verbal and physical aggression aimed to minimize one’s self esteem and self worth. According the US Dept. of Health and Human Services, bullying not only impacts the individuals involved but those who witness it, hear about, know the victim, know the perpetrator — essentially, it affects everyone who has any type of contact with the bullying incident(s).
Per the Office of Elementary and Secondary Education, when violence is witnessed, a correlation with decreased school attendance and academic performance is found across the board. Students who engage in dating violence tend to perform more poorly, earning average grades of D and F. Additionally, these students are likely to engage in risky behaviors, illegal behaviors (e.g., underage smoking, drug use, underage sexual activity) and attempt or consider suicide.
Furthermore, bullying has been linked to active shooter thoughts and actions. Columbine
, the most notorious school shooting in modern history that prompted extreme responses in schools to take preventative action, has often had bullying cited for the shooters’ motives. Most recently, Freeman High School in Spokane, WA suffered an active shooter incident where the perpetrator openly admitted to the police that his lesson was to “teach them a lesson” (e.g. teachers and students there) about bullying, demonstrating this very real link.
So, how do we stop it? The simple answer is to teach anti-bullying practices and have a zero-tolerance policy at all campuses for such behavior. But to do that, we all must raise awareness. Along with several other awareness programs, October marks National Bullying Prevention Month.
In light of this, AEGIS wants to provide you with anti-bullying tips and resources at each level in the chain effect of personal violence.
- See it or hear it, report it. The first step is to tell an adult that you have witnessed someone being bullied. While it may not be easy, nor your place, to get involved directly, you can make your school safer by reporting the incident to a teacher, counselor, safety officer or school staff member.
- Don’t participate in bullying. It seems simple enough, but everyone has either intentionally or accidentally fallen into some bullying moment. Sometimes we don’t like what we see, and so we make fun of people or, more harshly, lay a hand on someone out of anger. It is always best to make known your concern in a way that aims to resolve a problem before it launches into something bigger and worse.
- If you are a victim, speak up. Tell a friend. Tell a parent. Tell a teacher or a counselor or school staff member. While being bullied is scary, and “tattling” sounds like it will make matters worse, it could save your life to tell someone that you are being threatened and harmed. The next steps will be to move past a dark moment with adult guidance.
- For more tips, check out https://nobullying.com/category/teens/school-life/.
- Check in with your children. Whether they are the ones committing the bullying actions or the ones being bullied, it is important to get as much information as possible about their lives.
- If your child is being bullied, don’t react with anger. Again, this will be hard, but it will benefit you and your child to report it to school authorities to ensure the bullying stops. If it does not stop, help start a zero-tolerance policy from the parent board. In the worst case scenario, considering transferring your child to another school. Throughout the entire process, communicate with your child and ensure there is a safe space.
- If your child is the bully, don’t react with anger. It will be hard, but their lashing out is demonstrative of larger issues that need to be worked through as soon as possible. Talk to the school counselor or psychologist to work with your child. Help them see what is wrong with their actions and work toward their apology to the victim. Do not encourage further actions of violence with violence of your own, including yelling or screaming.
- If you do not know the signs of bullying, we encourage you to visit https://www.stopbullying.gov/what-is-bullying/index.html. For more help, visit https://nobullying.com/category/parents/parenting-help/.
- Look for the signs of bullying. Do not ignore “gossip” about bullying and do not ignore cries for help.
- Develop a zero-tolerance policy for bullying and enforce it.
- Work with students and parents to monitor, teach and deter bullying habits on campus.
- Because bullying tends to happen on campus, including before, during and after class hours, be prepared to stop it on the spot.
- For more resources for teachers and staff, we recommend https://nobullying.com/category/teachers/resources/. For campus administrators, we encourage you to work toward preventative measures such as those suggested here.
Lastly, we encourage your school and community to prepare for the worst case scenario through active shooter training designed for civilians and pre-law enforcement response. AEGIS offers four unique opportunities for educating you about active shooter situations, handling an active shooter, and saving yourself and others. Visit www.aegis.com/survive-active-shooter-training for more information. To learn more about our approach to preventing school shootings, visit here.
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By Chelsea Turner & Jeff Zisner